If a girl is roaming around you calling ‘dude‘ then welcome to the friend zone.
And to put it bluntly, guys life is not a movie, and she is not going to realize half way through a shitty relationship that she had a nice guy all along and dump the douchebag and come to you.
Like, have you ever heard a guy crashed a wedding to reclaim his love to the bride?
No, because this doesn’t happen in real life. In real life, a nice guy sits in his room listening to sad songs.
Now, you probably have been friend-zoned a couple of times, but let’s understand the reason behind it.
Below is the list of the reasons why you get friend-zoned. Read them carefully:
1. YOU LOOK WAY TOO FAMILIAR:
One of the apparent reason that girls put you in the friend zone is that you are all too familiar with her. If you remind of her ex, that means the wound is still fresh. It is even worse when she says you look like her brother.
Can’t blame a girl for being honest, right?
2. YOU ARE TOO NICE:
A very common mistake you guys commit is being too much nice. You think being nice will win you her heart.
While it is perfectly alright to be a gentleman, the problem arises when you become too nice. Keep your nicety level in check, or else you will end up with a friendship tag.
3. YOU ARE ALWAYS THERE:
One of the reasons behind you being friend zone is that you are always there to the extent that she takes you for granted.
She knows you will be there, so will stop appreciating your presence. Thus, it will be more of a platonic relationship with no thrill.
4. YOU ARE TOO AFRAID TO MAKE YOUR MOVE:
Like I mentioned above life is not a movie, so she is not going to figure out on her own. You will have to make your move, girls like the guys who can take charge. So gather all your courage and tell her how you feel.
I mean, what’s the worst that could happen?
She rejects you, then at least you will have a closure.
5. SHE IS NOT SURE ABOUT YOU:
When you are being too nice to her, you naturally give her reasons to doubt your intentions.
Being unnecessarily nice is not going to earn you extra points. She will just think you are fake. So don’t be a goody-goody.
6. SHE SEES YOU AS ONE OF HER GIRLFRIENDS:
Now, this is what happens when you are too sweet. You don’t have to sit down with her and discuss every aspect of her life. And this will rather be making you a member of her girl gang. So try to avoid that.
7. SHE IS ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE ELSE:
It is not always you; sometimes it is the other guy who drives you to the friend zone.
Well, if she has fallen for someone else there is not much that you can do. That is why don’t wait too long to make your move. Otherwise, you will be attending her wedding.
8. NO SIGN OF EXCITEMENT:
It is often noted that when you are trying to impress a girl, you become all nice and sweet, like some sort of a Disney character.
Now don’t get me wrong, nice is good, but girls like excitement. She sees cute guys every day, bring her something different. Don’t forget to be funny and spontaneous that will indeed woo her.
9. SHE IS UNSURE ABOUT YOU BUT DON’T WANT TO LOSE YOU EITHER:
When it comes to the commitment, you need to invest a lot of time and attention. Maybe she likes you, but she is not in a place to be in a relationship. Thus you get friend-zoned because friendship requires only little effort.
10. BECAUSE SHE GENUINELY JUST WANT TO BE FRIENDS:
When you don’t see any signs from the above reason, it is possible that is not looking for anything other than friendship.
She is trying to tell you that she would not trade friendship for anything more as she doesn’t see it work. She took the first step by being honest, and you take your step by not taking it personally.
Now that you know what you have been doing wrong, get up and start over. And this time, woo her with your confidence and spontaneous attitude.