Love, of course, is the foundation of a healthy relationship. But it takes a lot more than love to make your relationship stronger. Being in a relationship is not always about flowers, kisses, giggles, and gifts; it has its downs too.
But a strong couple always rises above the hardships. To form a trusting and healthy relationship, it takes a lot of work, and it would not happen overnight.
Be patient with your partner, know that it is natural for things to get rough and try to make it through. The amount of work and effort you put in your relationship defines how strong of a couple you are. For those who are struggling to find ways to make their relationship stronger, here are some ways that will surely help you.
Remember communication is vital. It is one of the most significant and probably the best qualities of a good couple. Sadly, not everyone can communicate correctly, and some don’t vocalize at all.
Want a healthy relationship? Communicate openly with your partner. Convey your feelings, and not just about the romantic and the good stuff but also about everything that makes you uncomfortable. A strong couple never dodges the issues, rather, they keep their communication lines open. If you have an issue, address it, don’t move around it.
A healthy and happy couple knows the importance of respect in the relationship. Respecting your lover’s time, individuality, heart, and trust is imperative. So is the mannerism, don’t set aside little things like ‘thank you’ or ‘Sorry’ for when you are in public or when you have company. These small things will go a long way in maintaining an active partnership.
3. QUALITY TIME TOGETHER
People often confuse quality time with quantity time. It doesn’t matter how much time you spend together, what is important is, the quality time with each other. There is a huge difference between having supper with your partner and talking about how was your work opposed to having dinner with each other while watching your favorite TV series. It is alright to enjoy the distractions, but it is very important to keep conversing and having quality time as one.
4. TIME APART
In a relationship, you need to love the distance as much as you love the togetherness. Where spending time together is important, spending time apart is equally vital. You need to be able to do your own thing and maintain your independence. When partners spend too much time together, it generates unnecessary codependence. Keeping boundaries and structure will help you in maintaining a healthy relationship.
5. LOVE LANGUAGE
People have different ways of feeling affectionate. There are so many things such as love words, exchanging gifts, and spending time together, physical touch, and so on. It is important to make out which one of the love notions is for your relationship. When you know what makes your partner feel special will help you stay connected with him/her.
When we have been in a relationship for a long time, we often forget to appreciate them. We may think of it but always forget to show them. Show your partner that you love him/her make them feel special. You could send them flowers, gifts, use your words, or by the means of sweet gesture. Keep the romance alive.
We often get stuck with the negatives. Well nobody is perfect, so don’t expect your partner to be. It’s all about loving a person for who they are. Embrace the good with the bad. So instead of focusing on the negatives, let’s make a simple effort to concentrate on the positives.
8. CHOOSE YOUR BATTLE
Arguments and fights are a must in the relationship. It is important for the couples to talk about the issues and walk through the tough times together. But picking your issues logically is important. Like, arguing over which curtains to buy for your home is undoubtedly not worth those logical ones. Partners in a healthy relationship always choose their arguments wisely, and you should do the same.
Now, let’s discuss sex and how important it is in maintaining a healthy relationship. See, the thing about sex is the more you have it, the more you crave for it, and the less you have it, the less you wish for it. And sadly, the less you will feel bonded with your lover. Keep your sex life active and exciting. Keep spicing things up at regular intervals.
10. DON’T COMPARE
You must have heard the famous saying ‘The grass is always greener on the other side.’ And with human nature, it is true. We have a tendency to compare our life with others- what jobs they have, where they are going on a vacation, and so on.
And now thanks to social media we compare our relationship with others too. But remember happy couples never compare themselves with others, they concentrate on each other. They don’t care how much greener the grass is on the other side, and they are content with themselves.
So, that was the end of my list about how to be a healthy couple. Remember the small things are what matters the most. They built the base of the relationship, and you know how important a strong base is to build a sturdy building.
You will always have to be working on your relationship; it is a lifelong process. But when you build a strong foundation it makes the further process easier.